Forget About Your Past Alcoholism – Focus on The Kind of Person You Want be TODAY
Get involved with groups that focus on the POSITIVE TRAITS that you’d like to have in your life, rather than with people who want you to continually re-live your past failings. SURROUND YOURSELF with those whom you would like to emulate, and those whom you admire. For instance, perhaps you always wanted to learn the guitar, or study acting, or get a black belt in karate. Try joining a local club dedicated to what you wish to learn, and you’ll find that when you focus on the positive things that you want to come INTO your life, the previous bad habits will simultaneously fade OUT of your life.
Not sure what you’d like to do? Just think about it for a little while. There will be SOME thing that you always wanted to DO or BECOME or TRY that will make you a better person. Maybe its learning a new language, or volunteering, or going back to school or even moving to a different part of the country. It is THOSE positive things that you should focus your energy upon. Whatever it might be, there will be a dozen ways to get involved with people who have similar interests as yours. The more you get involved with groups that share your positive interests and goals, the more likely you are to adopt those positive traits into your own life.
Remember, that which you focus on in your life becomes stronger. If you attend AA meetings then you should realize that you are focusing on alcohol, alcoholics, and alcoholism! This is the exact OPPOSITE of what you should do. Instead of joining a group like AA and focusing on your history of alcoholism, join a group that helps you develop your PRESENT attributes, strengths, interests – and all the good things that you have inside of you that are just waiting to come out. Focus on how sobriety gives you back your future, and you’ll help bring about that reality.
The most important thing to remember is that alcoholism is NOT a terminal disease, or innate weakness, or something you are simply powerless before. It’s a BAD HABIT that you’ve acquired over the years, and all bad habits can be broken. The BEST WAY to break a bad habit is to replace it with a good habit. A habit that you want in your life. Focus on the habits you want in your life, and surround yourself with the people who already have those habits, and you’ll quickly move yourself in the direction of sobriety. Which, ironically enough, also happens to be the direction of health and happiness!
The bottom line: You should surround yourself with the people and things that reflect the type of person you want to become, and not the person you once were! Before you know it, you’ll become that new person, and you’ll feel happier and healthier than you’ve felt in a long, long time. ♦